Is he my Coach or my Husband?

Dear Mother Azna,

Please tell me if I should continue playing competitive sport with my husband, who has been coaching me for the past 25 years. It is a continual battle with him shouting at me all the time and neither of us enjoying it. But we love each other deeply and I know that if I do get someone else to coach me, it will hurt him terribly.

Please tell me what to do.

D.B.

Dear One,

You will perform at much greater capacity after you let go of your husband as trainer. He is your love but this situation is very draining to that love. Your husband feels a great deal of stress over this as well. He always feels he has to find ways to help you be better yet deep inside, some part of him feels inadequate.

Your husband does indeed want the best for you dearest; although it is very hard for him to even think of letting go of his power position.

What you must ask yourself is this; Do I sincerely want to excel or do I want to stay in misery; dreading every training/sports session? It really is quite simple, yes; your husband will be a little hurt. Let him throw his little tantrum if he needs to. He will secretly feel as if a great burden has been lifted. As his energy steps back another sourer of training and inspiration will come forward for you.

Because you have done well even with this emotional situation, your energy will soar to higher heights once you make this decision. A firm, immovable decision followed by quick action is best.

Here is a 3 part plan to help you.

#1. Ask for my help in every area of this issue.

#2. Do some energy work on your emotions first.

#3. Meditate and connect with his dear heart and tell him spirit to spirit before you take action.

Love, Azna